During the journey, anxiety and concern about the outcome can manifest in various ways. A common one is seeking out information or examples that reveal success rates or potential risks. Searching the internet, comparing with other couples in the immediate environment, or even within the same clinic can become a source of information.
How Does This Tendency Affect a Couple in the Process of Trying?
Comparison can sometimes be done in moderation without preventing us from focusing on ourselves. However, it can also become persistent, leading to disorganization. The thought that “every case is different” is usually acknowledged in theory but doesn’t always ease our emotions. Essentially, behind these searches is our need to feel secure.
However, if we notice that these searches increase our anxiety or divert us from our own path:
Focus on three key areas:
- Time: Stay in the present.
- Practicality: Take each step one at a time.
- Emotionally: Stay connected with yourself.
Set limits on constant internet searches.
Remind yourself that to ease fear, you need to trust yourself more rather than compare.
Seek help if you find it challenging to manage on your own.