One of the questions that often concerns couples is whether they should share their journey with those close to them and how much this might help. In some cases, the answer is clear and straightforward—either “yes” or “no”—based on the specific circumstances and needs of each couple. However, sometimes the decision is influenced by various thoughts and concerns, such as:
Exposure: of something very personal, affecting both individuals and the relationship itself.
Worry: about causing distress by sharing the news.
Anxiety over others’ expectations: the responsibility they may feel for the success or failure.
Fear: of being bombarded with too many questions about every step (test results, causes of infertility, treatment plan choices, etc.).
Frustration: if they hear too many tips on success or positive thinking.
Guilt: if they ultimately decide not to share and “leave these people out.”
How Can an Environment Be Supportive?
- By maintaining as discreet an approach as possible.
- By avoiding intrusive questions and expressions of anxiety.
- By focusing more on the people rather than just the outcome.
It’s important for each couple to feel free to organize and carry out their steps as they see fit, answering for themselves the questions, “What helps us?” and “How do we want to experience this?”
In the end—regardless of who and how many people are by their side—their journey remains their own unique, personal, and distinct experience!
